Lesson 785: The Overlapping Area of Hoarding and Self-Identity
Course duration:70 minutes
This course explores the overlap between hoarding and self-identity. Certain items symbolize identity, past roles, or unfulfilled ideals, so giving them up can trigger emptiness and fear. The course helps learners preserve their self-worth while allowing room for identity renewal and fluidity. The practice emphasizes safety, slowness, and feasibility, avoiding the pursuit of all-encompassing change at once. Please record each action, change in anxiety, and change in space to create a reviewable practice track.
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Lesson 785: The Overlapping Area of Hoarding and Self-Identity
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Some people feel that without these possessions, it's as if their life, interests, and identity have been taken away. When possessions and self-identity overlap too deeply, letting go can be frightening. What we need to learn is to expand ourselves, not to deny our past selves. Regarding the "overlapping area between hoarding and self-identity," focus on understanding, pausing, and choosing, rather than blaming yourself. Prepare a small piece of paper and write down the one thing you most want to practice today, and then write down a minimum version that you can complete. This way, even if you're not feeling well, you still have a path to follow. You can think of today's practice as a gentle companionship, not a harsh exam. Choose a very small entry point, give yourself a manageable scope, and then do it with steady movements. If resistance, frustration, or reluctance arises during the process, don't rush to deny it; simply gently acknowledge: "I'm feeling a little uncomfortable right now, but I can still continue slowly." When you're willing to stop and observe, you're no longer completely carried away by old habits. Even just pausing for ten more seconds, seeing one more thought, or making one more record are all part of the recovery. Please include these small changes; they are slowly accumulating. If you can't do something at a certain step, don't immediately give up. You can retreat to smaller goals, such as tidying up only one corner, judging only three items, or writing down only one feeling. Recovery requires flexibility, not forcing yourself. The gentler you adjust your methods, the easier it is for new habits to stay. When you finish practicing, give yourself a simple wrap-up. You can drink some water, wash your hands, open the window, or write down what you accomplished today on a piece of paper. This wrap-up will remind your body: I've done a little, and I can stop here for today. Remember, change isn't about overturning the past all at once, but about gradually returning life to yourself through gentle practice. You don't need to prove to anyone that you'll get better immediately; you just need to give yourself more understanding, more order, and more breathing space today. Taking it slow doesn't mean standing still; it means you're finally starting to move forward in a way that doesn't harm you. As long as you see even a little more than yesterday, it's already worth acknowledging. Please carefully count these small efforts; they are not superfluous comforts, but evidence that new habits are forming.
AI Healing Q&A
Describe to the AI the most difficult item, thought, or space to deal with today, relating it to your possessions and self-identity. Let the AI break it down into context, thought, emotion, physical reaction, urge to hoard, and small alternative actions, and generate a gentle alternative phrase to remind yourself that you don't need to hoard for security. The focus of this exercise is safety, slowness, and feasibility; don't aim for complete change all at once.
○ Music therapy guidance
Music therapy revolves around objects and self-identity. Choose music with a steady rhythm and gentle melody, listen for three minutes first, then focus on a very small area. While listening, observe your breathing, shoulder and hand tension, and anxiety scores, using the music as a stabilizing signal for starting, pausing, and ending. The key to this practice is safety, slowness, and feasibility; don't aim for complete change in one go. Record your anxiety scores, physical reactions, and spatial changes before and after the activity.
○East-West Healing Tea Drinks
Recommended drink: Rose tea. Reason for recommendation: Rose tea is gentle and soothing, suitable for those experiencing feelings of guilt, shame, or insecurity due to discarding items, and helps with gentle conversation. Instructions: Steep 2-3 rosebuds in hot water for 5-10 minutes. Drink in the afternoon or evening. Coordinate with three slow breaths while drinking, and record changes in anxiety before and after the process. Suitable as a short pause before and after tidying up to help stabilize actions.
○ Healing Recipes
Cooked Chickpea Stew
Boiled chickpeas are rich in plant-based protein and fiber, making them a suitable and stable main meal for a decluttering day. They are filling, simple, and can be prepared in advance, helping learners reduce irritability caused by hunger and allowing the decluttering process to proceed in a more stable physical state. After eating, you can continue working on a small area to avoid overexertion. Simultaneously, record a small-scale decluttering session to observe changes in your body, emotions, and the space.
Plant-based protein | Stable satiety | Organize main meals
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◉ Western Dietary Therapy · Stew · 45. Boiled Chickpea Stew
I. Recommended Dietary Therapy and Reasons
Recommended dishes:Cooked Chickpea Stew
Recommended reasons: Boiled chickpeas are rich in plant-based protein and fiber, making them a suitable and stable main meal for cleansing days. Chickpeas are filling and simple, and can be cooked in advance to create a warm stew with tomatoes, onions, and herbs. This helps learners reduce irritability caused by hunger, allowing the cleansing process to proceed in a more stable physical state.
2. Recipe and Method
Recipe (1–2 servings):
- 180g of cooked chickpeas
- 1 tomato
- A little onion
- 1 tsp olive oil
- 400 ml of water
- A pinch of salt and black pepper
practice:
- Clean the main ingredients thoroughly and cut them into chunks, slices, or soak them in advance as needed.
- Prepare a small pot, baking tray, or frying pan, and choose to boil, stew, bake, or mix depending on the type of recipe.
- First process grains, beans, root vegetables, or protein ingredients that require a longer heating time.
- Season with olive oil, herbs, lemon juice, honey, or a pinch of salt, keeping it light and not too strong.
- Simmer, lightly roast, or gently stir over medium-low heat to allow the ingredients to soften and release their aroma.
- After finishing, let it sit for 2–3 minutes to allow the temperature to drop slightly, resulting in a smoother texture.
- Eat it slowly in small portions, as a support meal to stabilize your body before and after the process.
3. Small rituals for body and mind
When preparing to cook chickpeas, you can first observe the color, aroma, and texture of the ingredients, gradually shifting your attention from the cluttered space, the coming and going of items, and external evaluations back to the actions in your hands.
As you heat, stir, or plate, slow down and feel the scattered ingredients gradually come together to form a palatable whole. Remind yourself: I don't need to clean everything at once; I only need to complete one manageable small step.
When you take your first bite, focus on the warmth, softness, fragrance, or fullness to let your body know that it is safe and bearable, and you can relax a little.
4. Dietary Therapy Experience Record
- Record the time of consumption: before, during, or after tidying up, or before bedtime for mental and physical relaxation.
- Observe whether there are any changes in stomach burden, satiety, mental stability, and anxiety intensity within 30–60 minutes after consumption.
- If you consume it after cleaning, sorting, discarding, or reviewing, you can record whether cooking chickpeas helps reduce fatigue and restore a sense of control over your body.
V. Instructional Videos (approximately 3–5 minutes)
Video Title:Boiled chickpeas (stew) - A mild and stable light and nutritious dish.
6. Precautions
- Chickpeas need to be cooked until soft.
- People who are prone to bloating should eat beans in small amounts.
- It can be pre-packaged and heated on the day of preparation.
- Do not eat too much at one time to avoid overeating or putting extra strain on your stomach.
- For first-time users, it is recommended to try a small amount and observe the body's reaction.
- This product is best consumed in small amounts and slowly to avoid excessive intake at one time.
hint:This recipe is for daily physical and mental well-being and is not a substitute for any medical diagnosis or treatment. If you have chronic illnesses, are pregnant, have food allergies, are taking medication, or have special nutritional restrictions, please prioritize following the advice of your healthcare provider and nutritionist.
Mandala Viewing Healing
Mandala visualization revolves around objects and self-identity. Choose an image with a clear center and orderly hierarchy. Slowly look from the outer circle towards the center, and then back from the center to the whole. During practice, do not analyze whether the image is good or bad; simply experience the visual process from chaos to order, helping to return attention to boundaries and spatial awareness. The focus of the practice is safety, slowness, and feasibility; do not aim for complete change in one go. Please record your anxiety score, physical reactions, and spatial changes before and after the activity.
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○ Calligraphy and engraving therapy practice
This calligraphy and engraving therapy exercise revolves around "objects and self-identity." No fixed sentences are prescribed; learners can choose 2 to 6 words from the course title, personal goals, or their feelings about the day. Slow down the beginning, middle, and end of each stroke, observing whether you are rushing to finish, fill the page, or complete the task immediately. The focus of the exercise is to allow the strokes to help slow your breathing, rather than striving for a complete piece.
○ Art Therapy Guidance
Art therapy revolves around the design of objects and self-identity. Please draw a room, drawer, or desktop, gradually creating a passageway, a blank space, and a usable area from a state of overcrowding. Finally, write "I can restore the space little by little," using the image to practice moving from a feeling of loss of control to an organized order. The focus of the practice is safety, slowness, and feasibility; it does not aim to achieve complete change all at once. Please record your anxiety score, physical reactions, and changes in the space before and after the action.
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○ Diary Healing Suggestions
Journaling therapy revolves around recording objects and self-identity. Write down a small area and an item you dealt with today, the reason for keeping it, your anxiety level, and your final decision. Also, record whether your body relaxed, whether the space became clearer, and a small step you can take tomorrow, making the tidying experience visible. The focus of this practice is safety, slowness, and feasibility; it doesn't aim for complete change all at once. Please record your anxiety level, physical reactions, and changes in the space before and after taking action.
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May you gradually return to a more stable, clear-headed, and gentler version of yourself through today's practice.