Lesson 1337: I really do become different when someone supports me.
Duration:75 minutes
Topic Introduction:
For children and adolescents with disruptive mood disorder (DMDD), others often perceive them as "emotionally volatile, prone to outbursts, and seemingly difficult to get along with." Few people truly stop to quietly ask, "What are you like when you are properly supported?" In reality, you are not always out of control, always angry, always defiant; when understood, caught, and treated gently, your mind and body reveal a completely different side—more cooperative, more patient, more willing to try new methods, and more likely to believe that "you are not entirely bad." This course will help you see that support is not about solving all your problems, but about having someone willing to share a small part of the burden when you're about to collapse; when you fall, it's not just about seeing the mistake, but about being willing to find a way to start over together. We will explore the impact of "support" on the nervous system and mood regulation, distinguish between genuine support and implicit control, and practice how to recognize, request, and accept support. The course integrates 24 kinds of Eastern healing teas, 40 kinds of Chinese food therapy soups to nourish the body and mind, the steady rhythm of Chinese calligraphy (clerical script), and the mindful practice of "Mandala is not about drawing something, but about observing it," accompanying you step by step to experience: when someone supports you, you can really become different, and that version of yourself is something to look forward to.
▲ AI Interaction: Write down "How I changed when support appeared"“
You may be used to being criticized and told to "control yourself," but few people seriously ask you: how do you become when you are supported?
- ① Think back to an experience where you felt "truly understood and supported," which could have come from family, teachers, friends, or professionals.
- ② Write down what the other person did that made you feel differently (e.g., they didn't immediately scold you, were willing to listen to you finish speaking, helped you translate to others, or stayed with you to calm down).
- ③ Write three sentences about "What kind of person do I become when I am supported?" (e.g., more willing to try new things, less afraid of failure, more willing to tell the truth).
- ④ Write a sentence you hope to say to someone you trust in the future: "When you support me like this, I really become a different person."“
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○ Memories of being supported: Music therapy
Find a piece of music that reminds you of "someone being there"—it could be a childhood memory, a moment of being accompanied, or simply a melody that makes you feel gentle.
In the first 30 seconds of the music, try to recall an experience where you were "not left behind": someone waited with you, listened with you, and took their time with you.
Repeat the following sentence in your mind:
“When someone supports me, I really do become different.”
Let this song serve as a reminder: you are not just someone with an "emotional problem," but also someone who can grow and change with support.
○ Eastern Healing Tea: Longan and Red Date Refreshing Drink
Recommended reasons:Longan and red dates symbolize "being cared for and enveloped in warmth," making them a perfect reminder when you feel like you're "always troubling others"—that being well taken care of is a right, not a reward.
usage:Steep 3 longans and 2 red dates (cut open) in hot water for 8 minutes. With each sip, imagine a voice saying to you: "You deserve to be supported, not because you are perfect, but because you are you."“
○ Soybean and Kelp Gentle Power Soup (Chinese Food Therapy - Soup)
Soybeans represent unwavering resilience, while kelp symbolizes both tenacity and gentleness. When you receive support, you don't suddenly become a different person; rather, your inherent resilience and gentleness are slowly awakened.
While drinking soup, you can reflect on the moment when you were treated well and not immediately rejected. Were you more willing to try new things and less inclined to slam the door or explode?
This bowl of soup wants to tell you:
“"The person you are when supported is truly different from the person you are when you are struggling alone—and you deserve more of those moments."”
Strengthen the sense of being supported
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Healing Recipes
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Psychological Mandala (Viewing)
Psychological Healing: Psychological Mandala - 88 Thoughts
A mandala is not about drawing something, but about observing it.
Imagine the center of the mandala as "the supported me," and the outer layers are those who have appeared before you, who are willing to listen to you, and who are willing to accompany you through emotional storms.
While watching, say to yourself:
“"Not everyone will leave, and not every moment will be as lonely as before."”
As you follow the outer ring of patterns with your eyes, you can mentally recall:
Who stayed by your side after you had your outburst?
Who would be willing to say, "Let's figure something out together," when you're in a state of confusion?
Mandala reminds you that support is not perfect, but it exists, and you deserve to encounter it again and again.
○ Chinese calligraphy - Clerical script (Write "Me when I am supported")
The strokes of clerical script are broad, stable, and weighty, just like the feeling that slowly grows in your heart when you are supported, that "I don't seem so bad".
Today, I'll use the clerical script to write down the image of myself that you see in the support section.
- Sentence writing:
- I really do become different when someone supports me.
- With support, I truly become a different me.
- Writing Tips:
- When you write, recall a time when you were well supported, and let that feeling flow into every stroke.
After you finish writing it, look at this sentence for a few seconds and say to yourself:
“"I deserve to continue to receive this support, and I deserve to believe in a better version of myself."”
○ Draw "The Supported Me" - Art Therapy Exercise
When words fail to describe your change, visuals can help you see how different you are when you are supported versus when you are carrying everything alone.
I. Two selves: Fighting alone vs. being supported
- Draw two simple line drawings of human figures on a piece of paper: write "Me when I'm carrying the burden alone" on the left and "Me when I'm being supported" on the right.
- On the left, use colors and lines to express tension, explosion, and powerlessness; on the right, use colors to express slight relaxation and a little space in one's mind.
- Write a message to the version of yourself on the right: "Thank you for trying to show a different side of yourself when you have someone with you."“
II. Supported handprint diagrams
- Draw an open palm and write "Those who support me" on the palm.
- Write a support method on each finger: listen, be there for me, remind me to rest, help me interpret my feelings, and review things with me afterwards.
- This image reminds you: you are not just someone who brings trouble, you are also someone who deserves to be caught.
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○ 1337. Changes when supported • Log-guided suggestions
① Write down a situation where you feel "someone is really supporting me" (it can be very small).
② Describe how your emotions, behavior, or physical reactions were different at that time (e.g., you were more willing to communicate, less willing to run away, less willing to self-attack).
③ Complete the sentence: "When someone supports me, I become more..." (e.g., more gentle, brave, patient, and willing to try again).
④ Write a sentence to your future self: "Next time you feel like you can't hold on anymore, remember: when someone supports you, you really become a different person."“
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You are not destined to only have one form.
In blame, you become tense, defensive, and explosive;
With support, you will become more flexible, grow, and change.
May this lesson stay with you forever:
You deserve to be supported, and you deserve to believe in the version of yourself that grows with that support.
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