Lesson 57: How to Deal with Authority Figures or Superiors
Duration:70 minutes
Topic Introduction:The anxieties of the digital world are more insidious: fear of sending the wrong message, fear of an unpleasant voice, fear of not getting a reply. This course helps you understand the pressure of online performance and teaches you to maintain sincerity and balance in digital communication using the three-second awareness method. When learning, please set your goals small, observe only one reaction, and complete only one gentle action. You don't need to change yourself immediately, just understand a little more within a safe range. Every observation and record is the beginning of rebuilding a sense of stability. When learning, please set your goals small, observe only one reaction, and complete it.
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Lesson 57: How to Deal with Authority Figures or Superiors
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When learning that "online social interaction (voice/video/messaging) also makes me nervous," please put aside your shame for now. Social anxiety is not a personality flaw, but rather an overreaction of the nervous system in relational situations. It tries to protect you from rejection, mistakes, and ridicule, but its protection often goes too far. Online social interaction can also bring performance pressure, such as fear of sending the wrong message, fear of having an unpleasant voice, and fear of not receiving a reply. This lesson practices awareness and balance in digital communication. When social anxiety arises, the mind often automatically generates conclusions: they must have noticed me, they must think I'm strange, I just said something wrong, I'll be criticized. At the same time, the body also enters a state of high alert: heart rate increases, breathing becomes shallow, face flushes, throat tightens, and even the mind goes blank. Remember, these reactions are not failures, but rather the body executing protective procedures. The first step in this lesson is to slightly shift your attention from "how others are seeing me" to "what I am experiencing right now." You can write three columns on paper: what I worry others will think; what evidence I actually see; and is there a gentler, more realistic interpretation? This isn't self-hypnosis, but rather separating mind-reading, catastrophizing, and the spotlight effect from reality. The second step is to give your body a reassurance. You can place your feet firmly, exhale slowly, gently relax your jaw and shoulders, and allow yourself three seconds to pause before answering. Social anxiety is most averse to the command, "I must perform well immediately." The more you allow yourself to slow down, the more your body has the opportunity to withdraw from the feeling of being judged. The third step is to choose a small, authentic social action. It could be sending a short message, sharing a genuine feeling with someone you trust, maintaining your presence in a group for only five minutes, or practicing a transition phrase. The goal isn't perfect performance, but rather allowing your nervous system to learn little by little: I can be seen, but I won't necessarily be harmed. If certain social situations involve humiliation, aggression, constant control, or real danger, you don't need to force yourself to expose yourself to them. Healing isn't about enduring harm, but about helping you distinguish between real threats and anxiety misreporting. Seek help from a therapist, doctor, family member, or trusted supporter when needed. Finally, give yourself a reassuring reminder: I can be nervous, and I can slowly engage in relationships; I can be imperfect, and I still deserve respect. Today, simply recognizing one more anxiety pattern, completing a small experiment, or reducing self-criticism is already a step towards restoring social safety. After reading aloud, please write down a minimal social exercise and a boundary you can use to protect yourself. The next time you enter a social situation, don't strive for complete relaxation; just remember to breathe, pause, and observe the evidence. You are not learning to please everyone, but to remain authentic and safe in relationships. Every gentle attempt accumulates new experience for your body: being seen does not equate to being rejected. After reading aloud, please write down a minimal social exercise and a boundary you can use to protect yourself.
AI Healing Q&A
Online social interaction can also be stressful: fear of mispronouncing words, fear of not getting a reply, fear of not sounding good in your voice. You can show a message you want to send but are hesitant to to AI, letting it help you refine it to be clear, gentle, and with appropriate boundaries. Online expression doesn't have to be perfect, nor does it need to be revised to the point of exhaustion. Take a deep breath before sending and remind yourself: I am communicating, not being judged. After answering questions, finalize the message you want to send; don't let repeated revisions wear you down. Let your body gradually believe that you are on your way.
○ Music therapy guidance
Online social interaction can also be stressful, leading to repeated revisions before sending messages and endless waiting for responses afterward. Before sending, try listening to a short, calming piece of music to slow your typing and ask yourself: Is this message clear enough? After sending, put your phone away and continue listening to the music without immediately checking. This practice isn't about ignoring the anxiety, but about making the wait more bearable. While waiting for a reply, also bring yourself back to real life. Let your body gradually trust that it's safe. Give yourself some time.
○Eastern and Western Healing Teas
This lesson suggests choosing mild, light, and non-stimulating teas to help stabilize your body's rhythm after studying online social interactions. You can sip small amounts of osmanthus oolong, light black tea, or herbal tea slowly. Avoid drinking it too strong, too hot, or too quickly; treat the first sip as a pause signal, allowing your stomach, breathing, and focus to slow down. If you are sensitive to caffeine, you can use decaffeinated herbal tea or warm water instead. Again, avoid drinking it too strong, too hot, or too quickly; treat the first sip as a pause signal, allowing your stomach, breathing, and focus to slow down.
○ Healing Recipes
Lotus leaf porridge
Lotus leaf porridge is a suitable healing recipe after this lesson. It's gentle, easily digestible, and low-calorie, and will replenish my body with stable energy after the stress of learning online social interaction (voice/video/message), reducing the amplification of social anxiety caused by hunger, fatigue, and tension. Eat slowly, observing your hunger, satisfaction, breathing, and feelings of relaxation. It doesn't aim for elaborate plating, but rather serves as a gentle replenishment after social practice.
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◉ Chinese Food Therapy · Porridge · 57. Lotus Leaf Porridge
I. Recommended Dietary Therapy and Reasons
Recommended dishes:Lotus leaf porridge
Recommended reasons: Lotus leaf porridge is a light and refreshing Chinese medicinal porridge with a delicate herbal aroma. It's perfect for providing a sense of lightness and support during social anxiety classes, when feeling heavy-hearted, having a poor appetite, or in hot, humid weather. The subtle fragrance of lotus leaves, when cooked with rice, creates a refreshing and gentle porridge base. It doesn't rely on strong flavors, but rather on its lightness, warmth, and overall comfort to help alleviate the body's burden. It's ideal for a small serving at lunch or dinner, allowing you to regain a sense of rhythm and control over your body through simple food.
2. Recipe and Method
Recipe (1–2 servings):
- 5–8 g of dried lotus leaves, or 1 small piece of fresh lotus leaf
- 60 g japonica rice
- 800 ml of clean water
- 20g of mung beans (optional)
- A little rock sugar, optional
practice:
- Rinse dried lotus leaves quickly. If using fresh lotus leaves, wash them and cut them into small pieces.
- Rinse the rice thoroughly. If using mung beans, soak them in advance.
- Add water and lotus leaves to a pot and simmer over low heat for 10 minutes.
- Remove the lotus leaves, leaving behind the fragrant lotus leaf water.
- Add rice and mung beans, bring to a boil over high heat, then reduce to a simmer.
- Simmer for 30–35 minutes, until the rice is soft and the porridge is smooth.
- Add a small amount of rock sugar as needed, and simmer for 2–3 minutes.
3. Small rituals for body and mind
When you smell the fragrance of lotus leaves, you can slow down your breathing and feel the lightness brought by the scent of plants.
When cooking porridge with lotus leaf water, observe how the clear water transforms into a fragrant porridge base. This can serve as a reminder to yourself: I can gradually let go of some of my burdens.
When you take your first bite, focus on the light, warm, and soft texture of the rice porridge to help your body feel lighter.
4. Dietary Therapy Experience Record
- Record when you eat it: whether it's lunch, dinner, or a light supplement when you feel heavy.
- Observe whether there are any changes in stomach lightness, body refreshment, satiety, and mood stability within 30–60 minutes after consumption.
- If you consume it when it's hot or humid, you can record whether it helps reduce the feeling of heaviness.
V. Instructional Videos (approximately 3–5 minutes)
Video Title:Lotus Leaf Porridge: A Chinese medicinal porridge with a light, herbal aroma
6. Precautions
- Lotus leaves have a mild aroma but are also mild in nature. People with a weak constitution or diarrhea should consume them with caution.
- Before using dried lotus leaves, ensure they are from a clean source and rinse them thoroughly.
- It is not recommended to consume large amounts of lotus leaf porridge over a long period of time.
- Blood sugar managers should avoid adding extra sugar.
- Pregnant women, children, or people with chronic diseases should consult a professional for advice first.
hint:This recipe is for daily physical and mental well-being and is not a substitute for any medical diagnosis or treatment. If you are pregnant, have digestive system disorders, chronic diseases, or have special nutritional restrictions, please prioritize following the advice of your healthcare provider and nutritionist.
○Mandala Healing
Online social interactions can also be stressful because text, profile pictures, and reply times can all be repeatedly analyzed. When looking at a mandala, put your phone further away and let your eyes rest on the pattern. Remind yourself: I don't need to reply immediately, and I don't need to interpret every punctuation mark as a comment. If you feel the urge to check messages again, take a deep breath. After you're done, write down a healthy boundary, such as checking later. Online relationships also need rhythm; you can take your time. You can get the rhythm back. Take it slow.
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○ Calligraphy and engraving therapy practice
Pre-social anxieties often arise early. Before leaving home or engaging in conversation, try a short exercise called "slow tidying up." Don't write down specific scenarios; simply use repetitive movements to stabilize your body. You can feel if your wrists are relaxed and your breathing is slightly deeper. If you have limited time, you can write it down once. This small exercise is like placing a cushion in your mind, allowing you to enter social situations with more support. Be gentle. You can think of these few minutes as a safe space for yourself, letting your mind slowly retreat from external scrutiny.
○ Art Therapy Guidance
Drawing exercises can help you express the tension, withdrawal, or anticipation that online social interaction makes me feel through lines, blocks of color, and spatial distance. Don't try to make it realistic; just capture your true physical feelings. Use dark colors to represent stress, light colors to represent your comfort zone, and blank spaces to represent places where you need rest. After finishing, observe the drawing, rather than criticizing it. Let the image help you see that anxiety is only part of the experience, not the whole of yourself. Use dark colors to represent stress, light colors to represent your comfort zone, and blank spaces to represent places where you need rest.
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○ Diary Healing Suggestions
When facing authority figures or superiors, nervousness often amplifies automatically. Today, write down the most touching point from the course, and also the scenario you fear most. Write down a small action, such as preparing a key point in advance, but without rehearsing it until exhaustion. You can respect the other person, and you can also take care of yourself. End your journal with a word of support: I don't need to be perfect to deserve being taken seriously; I can express myself in a more stable way. Remember, today only requires a small action; you don't need to solve all problems at once. Being willing to write it down is already a gentle way of getting closer to yourself.
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